Friday, March 16, 2012

You Don't Complete Me

You love me, you complete me
You hold my heart in your hands
And it's okay 'cause I trust that
You'll be the best man that you can...

For those of you who are not familiar with those words, they are part of the lyrics to a Keshia Cole song called "You Complete Me". I Looooove that song. It's a pretty song. Hell, I like most of her songs. What can I say? I'ma fan.

I'm using it in this blog because it goes perfectly with a topic that keeps slapping me in the face. Several times this week I've heard people talking about their significant other completing them...or whether or not that's what should happen when you get into a relationship.

My personal opinion on this is that you should already be complete before you get into a relationship. Your significant other should be an added bonus to you and vice versa. Trust me...I know from personal experience.

Some people, mainly women think that once they find the right man he will complete them. This isn't something that I ever believed, but I was able to see how entering into a relationship without being in a good place could ruin a good thing.

So take it from me, if you're single and you're going thru a lot of stuff. Things that make you feel down. Or things that make you feel like you don't have a lot to offer at the moment, then just be friends and get yourself together first. Now I'm not talking about being rich or having your dream job or a big house on the hill first. I'm talking about being in a good place emotionally because Johnny Smith aint gonna "complete you.

Now back to the song....


  1. Thank you for your blog!!! So many women are looking for someone to complete them and the bottom line is, that if you are not complete, it means you are HALF COMPLETE...Meaning HALF of a WOMEN... What man in his right mind wants HALF of a women!!!! Men wants a woman that is a COMPLETE package not a women looking for a man to complete her. A woman/man should compliment each other NOT complete each other. Women should let GOD complete her not a man, if a women is feeling incomplete it is not for MAN it is the VOID between her and GOD!!!!

  2. I totally agree!!! I just had to write about this. This past week I kept hearing people talking about this topic.