Monday, August 20, 2012

I Wanna Know!

So earlier today as we're in the car leavin' church, I hear a throwback Mariah Carey tune that I love! At the time, however, I wasn't in the mood to hear it. It's that song called "We Belong Together".  Now do you see why I didn't wanna hear that? Especially after hearing such an awesome word in church! That was probably the first time that I was able to hear and enjoy a sermon w/out thinking about my ex. So with that being said, I definitely wasn't tryin' to get all mushy courtesy of Mariah Carey.

Well once I began to sing was a wrap! This is turn got me to thinking about my past relationships.....well just my last one. Thinking about what went wrong, what part I played in the relationship ending, etc. You know? Sappy crap like that. But on a serious note, it really did make me think about how things played out in the relationship.

I thought to myself that when things are not going well or when the person has a problem with something that the other person has said or done, I'd want to know! Basically what I'm saying is to just be least give a person an opportunity to correct themselves--IF they feel they need to. I don't think it's fair to either party involved to keep quiet and then just blow up. Or to keep quiet and then not say anything until you have decided to explore other options.

I guess either way, someone will probably get hurt. Well I'd rather have my feelings hurt because someone is telling me, "Hey Bridget, I don't like it when you..." That gives me the chance to correct myself. Same goes the other way around. I think that I've always done a good job of letting a man know about what I didn't like. At the same time, you've gotta let a person know what you DO like, too. (but that's a whole 'nother blog for a whole 'nother time). But like I was saying...I wanna know. If I'm too clingy....tell me so I can give you 50 feet! If I don't spend enough time with you...let me I can pencil you in.

Funny what a song can make you start thinking about huh????
Until my next rant.....


Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Just Don't!!!

Like many Americans, I've always been a fan and consumer of Nike products, but with the recent inappropriate products I'm heading for the hills. Let me show you what I mean....

A little while ago when my Yahoo! homepage came up, the first story I saw was one about the controversial t-shirt that you see above. Now I won't lie, at first I wondered why there was even a story about this shirt because it looked kinda cute to me. Then I thought to myself that I would never seriously wear a shirt like that because I wouldn't wanna attract the wrong type of attention nor send out the wrong kinda message.

Then once I read the article I really got offended. Plus it made me think back to another article that I read a while ago about how Nike was trying to put out some sort of "shackle" shoes and thankfully they'd been shelved.

So what I read from the t-shirt article, Nike was the official outfitter for the London Olympics and they came up with this shirt that was only available for women. What makes this shirt offensive and inappropriate is that a "gold-digger" is a derogatory term for a woman who is out for a man's money. The article also went on to say that Nike could have come up with a better phrase to emblazon across this new t-shirt. I agree 100%!!! Like the article said, this implies that all those female gold award winners didn't deserve them and somehow did something underhanded to get theirs. NOT!!!!

Sounds like Nike needs to lay off the paint fumes they've obviously been sniffing. All of that money that they've made over the years must have gone to their heads. Oh and just in case you didn't see these "shackle" shoes, here they go!!!

I know crazy right!!!! I'm done!!!


Dangling the Sex Carrot

By no means am I a relationship expert or anything close to one, but I would like to give my input on something that I viewed online. Actually, I'm pretty sure that it's something that goes on in many homes across the country.....probably even the world. 

I guess I should go back a little bit huh? Well there's this show called Dr. Drew's Lifechangers that comes on the CW...I think. Anyway, I've never really watched this show before but I have run across it while channel surfing. Now from what I have seen, they have pretty interesting topics on there most of the time; which doesn't surprise me given that Dr. Drew has a lot to do with the Teen Mom series on MTV. So for some reason unknown even to me I decided to google the show to see what was on the website. Once there, I see    that they did a show about miserable newlyweds.....yeah I'll wait. Now is it just me or is that an oxymoron??? I mean if yall are newlyweds and are already miserable WHY THE FUCK DID YOU GET MARRIED IN THE FIRST PLACE? 

So me being the nosey chic that I am....I had to know more about these people. Oh and by the way, they were BLACK! That doesn't matter to me for real, but I just had to point that out. So then I see something that says "Dangling the Sex Carrot". Now me being me, I already know what time it is when I see this mess!!! To sum up what I saw, the couple had been married about 6 or 7 weeks, have a couple of kids together, and the woman had decided to cut off the cooch because hubby wasn't helping around the house. 

Life really is too short to sleep alone - at least when you're wanting intimacy in your relationship.

Now for those of you who are sensitive to a certain type of language...some call it may wanna stop reading right now!!! Cuz ya girl is about to tell it like it T.I. is!!!

Since when did cutting off the lovin' from a man solve any thing??? Personally that's not a tool in my arsenal. What I'm saying is that I don't play that game. Because at the end of a long day, Mami wants to get her rocks off too!!! I mean what is the sense in being married and you're not doing what God intended for married folks to do....BE FRUITFUL AND MULTIPLY!!!  Men are hard-wired. I mean that in every sense of the word. In my opinion, getting no azz isn't gonna make a man say "Well dam maybe I need to start helping my wife do some of these chores". Eventually that's gonna make him think about cheating on yo stingy butt!!! Ole girl at the office has probably already been sweating him for a while now......

So the next time you dangle that carrot, you'll be doing just that dangling it!!!!


Friday, August 3, 2012

Go Shawty!!! It's Ya Birthday.

I haven't blogged in so long. I should just be ashamed of myself....but I'm not. I've just had so much going on and I didn't want to get too personal on here. But looking back, I probably should've just blogged about it considering that I vented on facebook instead. I would've been better off venting on my blog. I don't have a lot of followers on here yet so nobody would've really known. 

Anyway, today is my 30th birthday! Hopefully things are about to start turning around for a positive and good way. I'm definitely working on making some changes in myself. I start grad school next week. Good thing it's online too. That way I don't have to work anything around school. I can "go to class" whenever I want. 

I always said that I was gonna take this big fly trip to Vegas on my 30th birthday....but looks like that ain't gonna happen. It's cool tho. I'm in HuntsVegas. I'm goin out with the girls tonight for food and drinks. So that should be fun. Anything outside from my normal routine is fun. I don't get to do too much these days. My finances are messed up right you know how that goes. 

In other news, I have started working on my book. Hopefully, the ideas keep flowing and I finish it in a timely manner. I think this one will be called Family Secrets.  I'm also planning on starting one called Breaking the Cycle.  

That's enough for now...just touching base. I promise to blog more though.